Not Getting What You Don’t Want

Not Getting What You Don’t Want

I sat down with a young man yesterday who worked tirelessly for two years at an unpaid internship. He was notified last week that he wouldn’t be getting a job offer from the employer. Lots of his peers did get job offers. It stung.

My goal in meeting with him was to help him figure out his next step. By the time our meeting was done he was charged up with a world full of international missions possibilities. One in particular seems to be a perfect fit for him. I’m helping him try to be on the field by January.

In my opinion he is going to like his next gig way better than anything that internship would have gotten him. This is a better fit.

I was thinking for the rest of the afternoon how much it hurts to not get something. It even hurts to not get something you really don’t want. (Is that a double negative?)

I could relate. My plans were blown to heck about this time last year. Looking back I’m glad it happened, but it was rough for a while.

I have to believe that God, the one who made us, knows exactly what is best for us. When we don’t get those things we want I believe God is behind it. He knows what we really need.

When things don’t work out like you planned. When you’ve worked hard for years only to be told you don’t make the cut. When you don’t get what you don’t really want I’d like to propose you do something:


Trust that God has greater things for you. He knows how you are wired. He made you. He knows what will bring you fulfillment. Open your hands and surrender. Don’t fight it.

You may face a season of disappointment and discouragement. But take it from someone who just got to the other side of a major disappointment (me).

There are great things ahead!

What no eye has seen, what no ear has heard and what no human mind has conceived— the things God has prepared for those who love him. 1 Cor. 2:9