Why Is Everyone Avoiding Me?

Why Is Everyone Avoiding Me?

One day I was sitting in the break room alone and a good friend of mine walked in with her lunch in hand. She looked at me for a second and then turned around and walked away.

“Hey. Why are you leaving?”

“You’ve gotten too negative. I can’t be around you. All you do is complain about your job.”

What? I loved working at Southwest Airlines. Why did she think I was negative?

I thought about it for a while and realized that I had been sharing a break schedule with one of the most negative people we worked with. She complained about everything. Because she was the only one around I’d regularly be in conversations with her. I started picking up complaining as a way to relate to her.

I got along great with the negative lady. But it was harming me. And no one wanted to be around me.

There’s a fine line between becoming one of those unrealistically happy people and someone who is in touch with reality but chooses to be positive. I’ve concluded I’d rather ere on the side of being positive.

Lord knows there’s enough negative in this world. Anyone with working eyes and ears can tell there are some serious problems in the world.

But I’m convinced extraordinary people are the ones who see what’s wrong, do what they can to fix it, then choose to focus on what’s good around them.

I’m in a lifelong battle to make sure that no matter how bad things are I focus on speaking life into every situation rather than just point out the obvious. Being positive takes more work, but I’m certain it’s good for me and everyone around me.

Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits. Pr. 18:21