Facebook Makes Me So Mad

Facebook Makes Me So Mad

I counsel a lot of people. We get into some serious stuff. Addictions. Marital Infidelity. Abuse. I could tell you some stories, but I won’t because of confidentiality issues.

What’s interesting is, more often than you’d believe, I’ll have a gut-wrenching, tearful session with someone and then just an hour later notice a picture they post on Facebook. They’ll be at the beach sipping a martini #lifeistoogood.

I laugh. But then I get mad.

I get mad because I know how often I look at people’s lives on Facebook and get envious. So I’m guessing others have the same struggle. But I’ve seen behind the curtain enough to know that most of the stuff on Facebook is a misrepresentation of what’s actually going on.

The mom who seems to have it all together with the perfect home, perfect meals, just the right Instagram filter and runs a marathon every weekend – How many tears are being shed behind the scenes? The person who seems to always be eating sushi and out on the town – What’s really happening in their life?

In counseling we learn people can fake it real good in person. Social media makes it even easier to fake it.

I can say with confidence, much of people’s online lives are a lie.  But I regularly start evaluating my life based on a lie. Silly me. I have to force myself to believe none of what I hear and only about half of what I see on social media.

I’m guessing that’s part of what Paul was talking about in 2 Corinthians 10:12 when he said, But when they measure themselves by one another and compare themselves with one another, they are without understanding. Comparing ourselves to other mere mortals is always a bad decision.

So please, don’t do what I do and get miserable trying to measure up to other people’s online (fake) lives. Stop comparing. Embrace where you are and live the life God gave you to the fullest.