The 1 Question That Disarms Your Fear

The 1 Question That Disarms Your Fear

Recently a friend of mine who works in a high-level, highly competitive field made a small mistake at work. Because there is so little room for error, one mistake can be devastating for your career. He was immediately put on probation and faced a hearing to determine if he would be allowed to continue working.

For weeks he was unable to work and was forced to just sit and wait to find out his fate. He was constantly fighting fear of what could happen.

He called me to tell me what was going on. I shared with him that one of the most effective tools I’ve learned for dealing with debilitating fear is to ask this question:

What is the worst that could happen?

We talked about worst-case scenarios. He could lose his job. He could have to move to find a job. He might have to study a new career field. None of those were fun to think about, but as my friend talked out his fears something happened. Those fears lost their power.

My friend began to see that even if the worst possible scenario happened, he would be able to pick himself and move on. Ultimately, my friend was reinstated and has been doing great at his job, but he told me that confessing those fears helped him regain his confidence and not live under the oppression of the fear while waiting for the decision from his superiors.

Fear thrives in the dark. It grows in the dark, scary parts of our souls as we wrestle with the emotion of all the potential things that could go wrong. But something happens when we get it out into the open. The light causes it to lose some of its power. I seen over and over that confessing my fears to others not only helps me process, but I think it actually removes fear’s power to debilitate me.

If you are facing some major fears I think the best thing you can do is just grab someone and get it all out there. Tell them your fears and get it out into the light. Don’t let it keep building strength in the darkness.

…for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. 2 Tim. 1:7