Finding My Nemesis on Facebook

Finding My Nemesis on Facebook

When I was eighteen there was a guy in my circle of friends who was basically my nemesis. We were both pretty cocky, so we argued all the time. He always seemed to come out on top of the argument. He also knew exactly how to belittle me in a really smooth way in front of our friends. I couldn’t stand the guy.

I hadn’t thought about him for years, until the other day I came across his Facebook profile through another friend’s post. His profile was chock full of pictures of him on motorcycles, traveling around the world, surrounded by beautiful, exotic-looking women. He even had a nice, full head of long hair into his late thirties. Ugh. Not fair!

I subtly asked a friend what he knew about that guy. My friend’s face got serious.

“Man, he has had a rough time. His wife left him and he’s been in a relationship that isn’t good for him. He’s back in his small hometown, doing the same job he has been doing since high school.”

All of the sudden I went from jealousy to feeling sorry for the guy. I don’t know what decisions he made that led to those bad things happening, but I wouldn’t wish that on anyone.

Folks, it is so dangerous to compare your life to others based on what you see on social media. There’s no transparency on Facebook. You can craft whatever image you want. We all post the high points in our life with smiling faces and blue water and adult beverages. Rarely does anyone post the low points (and when they do, we block them).

You can never live truly free if you are constantly comparing your life to others. It just won’t work. And comparing your life to the Facebook-life of others is simply impossible, because those pictures aren’t their real life. They only present one side.

I’m preaching to myself here. This year I’m determined to do whatever it takes to avoid the dangerous comparison trap. I’m backing off of Facebook. I’m working on celebrating other peoples’ successes. I’m going to live my own life and not compare my journey to anyone else.

Do your best this year to live free from envy and comparison. Celebrate the life God gave you. You might just begin to realize what a great life you have.

But when they measure themselves by one another and compare themselves with one another, they are without understanding. 2 Cor. 10:12