The Freedom of Not Being Important

The Freedom of Not Being Important

When Emily and I were living in Latin America we’d come back to the United States every nine to twelve months. Without fail, while back, I’d run into different friends at church and at least one of them would say, “Hey bro! Haven’t seen you at church in a while. You doing ok?”

I’d be gracious and say, “I’m great. Thanks for asking.” But inside I was thinking, Ya, that’s because I live in freakin’ South America, dude. Thanks for noticing!” Some of those people even received our regular newsletter and they still didn’t know we had moved.

It has taken quite a few years, but I’ve finally started to realize that people just don’t think about me as much as I wish they did. In fact, in most cases they don’t think about me at all.

I was just reminded of this recently when I took four weeks off of digital media. No Facebook, no email, no blogs. I was certain that people would be completely lost without my insightful blogging and perspicacious commentary. But nobody even missed me! Thanks for noticing!

But in all seriousness, I’ve started to realize just how unimportant I am. And there’s beaucoup freedom in that. The world will be fine if I step back a little.

But there are a handful of people to whom I truly am important, like Emily and Elise and my family. So I’m doing my best to make sure that I give my best energy to the people that really do think I’m important.

Let me free you up a little: You aren’t as important as you may think. We love you and all, but please give your limited energy to the people to whom you matter most. Those people aren’t on Facebook or Twitter or Dancing with the Stars. They are living in your home and around you.

Putting your true importance in proper perspective is humility. And humility always brings freedom.

Aspire to live quietly, and to mind your own affairs, and to work with your hands… (1 Thes. 4:11)