What Your 1-Star Review Says About You

What Your 1-Star Review Says About You

The first day my book Vision Map was available on Amazon I noticed it had a 1-star review. This was really concerning because the book had just come out. Is it really that bad? Naturally, I went to check out what the reviewer said.

The reviewer hadn’t actually read the book, but she was ranting about the fact that the book had just come out and it already had reviews. “There’s no possible way anyone could have already read the book! Fake reviews, fake reviews!” She complained.

I took a personality test recently that said I don’t take criticism well. I don’t agree. And that test is stupid anyway… but on to my point… You can’t help but get a little flustered about a negative review like that. I thought about replying to let her know that the publisher sends copies out to people way before the book releases in exchange for reviews when it’s available. But the more I thought about it the more I decided that 1-star review spoke more about the reviewer than about me.

As a counselor/coach people give me a glimpse into their lives and then give me the freedom to address any wrong mindsets or problems I see. Having worked with lots of people I’ve come to agree with something my friend Jeff told me once: “People will tell you everything you need to know about them in the first few minutes of meeting them if you’ll just listen.”

That seems to be what Jesus meant when he said: “…the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.” (Luke 6:45)

When people come out guns blazing, criticizing, angry, and just plain cantankerous it reveals what’s really inside. It’s one thing to point out problems in a product or book or restaurant, but doing it in a nasty way or pontificating about your own personal preferences reveals more about who you are than you might want to admit.

Which causes me to pause.

It makes me evaluate my own responses to things that bother me. What’s inside of me that needs to be dealt with? I’d like to think my snark is “righteous indignation” but it’s probably just standard, mild-to-moderate anger. When I evaluate my words and responses it should cause me to say, “Search me, God, and know my heart… See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” (Ps. 139:22-23)

God won’t stop until he makes you into who he wants you to be. You are headed for glory, amigo. But for now, let’s all do our best to watch our words and make sure we are showing the world God’s goodness in us, not the parts of us he’s still trying straighten out. 🙂